How to Win Friends and Influence People

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Summary: If You Deal With People Read This Book! Outstanding!
Review: Whether you want people to respond better to you, raise your child's self esteem, have your employees cooperate and take initiative, have your employer notice what you are doing, or build a group of friends who are where you would like to be, This book will show you exactly how to do that.

Dale Carnegie's advice is profoundly accurate, and timeless. He also brings you golden advice from people such as Buddha, Carl Jung, Mark Twain, Woodrow Wilson, Lao-tse, Abraham Lincoln, John Astor and many others.

A few tips: Praise people for the slightest improvement; Always begin a letter (e-mail) or conversation showing gratitude for the other person; Let people save face when they are wrong - show understanding, NOT condemnation; Smile - or don't open shop; Call people by their right name - people do not like it when you haven't taken the time to at least know how to pronounce it; Show people a win/win position; ALWAYS show great interest in what the other person is doing, and let them know about what you notice!

This book should be required reading in all schools, for all parents, and for anyone who is in business where you are dealing with other people. It is one of the foremost important books on human relations, and you will do FAR better after you have read it than before.

A dear friend recommended this book to me, and I HIGHLY recommend it to you! Deserves 10 Stars! Barbara Rose, author of, 'Individual Power' and 'If God Was Like Man'

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Summary: Timeless Classic
Review: This book is a timeless classic that teaches people how to get along in both social and business environments. One of Carnegie's messages I will never forget was his answer to the question: How do you buy a gift for the man who has everything? According to Carnegie, forget the gift for the man and buy a gift for his wife. The first time I used this technique I convinced the office staff to purchase flowers for the boss's wife instead of the tired old plaque for his over crowded wall. The next day the boss sent thank you letters to every one, expressing how surprised and elated his wife was. That simple gesture paid dividends. Before you write Carnegie's ideas off as schmoozing and patronizing, please read him for yourself. This book has survived the test of time because the author teaches sincerity and high ethical standards as the bedrock to success.

Also, don't be distracted by the 1931 copyright on this book. Sharing the credit for a job well done and accepting blame where you are at fault is as valuable today as it was 73 years ago. Buy and read this book, it is a part of our cultural literacy and you don't want to be left behind.

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Summary: Read between the lines
Review: I wouldn't recommend this book if someone is trying to do the right thing and wants to truly make a difference in other people's lives. If you are looking to make it to the top and don't really care who you manipulate to get there, this is the book to read. Don't expect to make friends by using this book. To make friends, you don't always have to agree with someone, or be perky all the time, just be you.
Carnegie's heart may be in the right place as far as some of the principles go. He has a point, if we are good to other people, they will be good to us in return. At least that is how it should work. The thing he never addresses, is that this isn't always true. Sometimes no matter how hard we try, things don't get better, and some really great people never make it to the top. I think he should at least make it known that this isn't fool-proof, and that sometimes people don't appreciate others no matter what is said or done.
The most important thing about this book is that Carnegie makes us think. It does make a person stop and think about how they are acting towards others.
I came up with my own principle after reading this book. It has really nothing to do with the book itself, but rather what I think he left out... To be a true influence on others, be real, be kind, and be respectful. If you do those things you will touch lives every day. To make friends and be a true influence, do just one thing, be genuine.

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Summary: Good book by Mr. Carnegie
Review: I can't recommend this outstanding work by the late Mr. Carnegie enough. Before reading How To Win Friends and Influence People, I was a social loser, didn't know how to interact with anyone and was always passed over for promotions at work (not to mention parties and other social events).

This book changed my whole life. If you buy just one book on human realtions, make it this one.

On the other hand, if you want to read more than one book I also recommend The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey and Super Self by Charles J. Givens.

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Summary: principles stand the test of time
Review: First published in 1937, this book is the result of 15 years of Dale Carnegie's research in human relations. When learned and applied, these 30 timeless principles will help you become more likable and influential in others' lives.

Millions of copies of this book have sold because the principles are basic and proven. Sure, some of the language is dated. Many of the characters and companies mentioned in these pages are no longer household names. Look beyond those quirks and you will find some of the most memorable and applicable people skills material ever produced.

With simple presentation and vivid examples, Carnegie deftly walks us through Fundamental Techniques in Handling People, Six Ways to Make People Like You, How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking, and How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment.

When material is this old and this good, it could sometimes be considered trite and nothing more than common knowledge. Don't fall into that trap. Until its principles become common practice in our lives, this book is just as necessary and effective today as it was more than six decades ago.

Larry Hehn, author of Get the Prize: Nine Keys for a Life of Victory

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Summary: (To your Boss) I like your style
Review: not that i need this book, you know...been there, done that, next...

but you people who gave it one star, and think you won't need it, well you're not looking at the whole pie 'cos...

The office is like an army, and I'm the field general. You're my foot soldiers and customer quality is the WAR!!!

If you treat the people around you with love and respect, they will never guess that you're trying to get them sacked.

A problem shared is a problem halved, so is your problem really yours or just half of someone else's?

Quitters never win, winners never quit. But those who never win and never quit are idiots

What does a squirrel do in the summer? It buries nuts. Why? Cos then in winter time he's got something to eat and he won't die. So, collecting nuts in the summer is worthwhile work. Every task you do at work think, would a squirrel do that? Think squirrels. Think nuts.

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Summary: Timeless Classic
Review: If you are looking for a book on how to win friends and influence people through intimidation or manipulation this is not the book for you.

On the contrary...

The crux of this book is-to listen to other people when they talk to you. To pay closed attention to their problems. To have genuine interest in their lives. That's what this book is all about.

Although I am overly simplifying this book, I do feel that this is a GREAT book. Why? Because it's message is so important to heed in our times of high tech, high pressure, high stress, etc. We seem to have no time to listen to each other any more. There are so many distractions. Applying the principles in this book is the answer. We need to give our friends more time. More attention. Then you will have devoted friends and great relationships.

Zev Saftlas, Author of Motivation That Works: How to Get Motivated and Stay Motivated

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Summary: Classic
Review: This book is a classic at getting along with others. And what is more important than that? Nothing. Except happiness, maybe. For that I'd get the book called, The Little Guide To Happiness. But for gettng along with others, I'd get How To Win Friends And Influence People

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Summary: Works like a charm
Review: I read this book and since I'm pretty practical person, I just apply some of the rules mentioned in the book to people around me, and they work like a charm.

Give it a try and see the difference.

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Summary: It's all about people skills
Review: How To Win Friends and Influence People is a classic that is every bit as effective today as it was over 70 years ago. The principles are time tested, effective and easy to implement.

I have to laugh at the reviewer who said; "Carnegie only teches people skills." No kidding! Read the title guy!

But show me a profession you can get into which does not involve people. Life gets pretty lonely without people. Perhaps this guy is so glued to his pc that he has no time for people, sorry the rest of us do.

I highly recommend How To Win Friends and Influence People as a book that will positively impact your life. I also recommend the Carnegie courses if they are in your area.

Other books that will impact your life include The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and Super Self by Charles Givens.