101 Lies Men Tell Women

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Summary: lies
Review: 101 Lies Men Tell.....hmmm, interesting concept. Do you think it would have been published if it was titled 101 Lies Jews Tell...or Blacks or Natives? I didn't think so either. I read this book and it appears the lies are, for the most part, gender neutral. There really isn't a lot of material that most anyone over the age of 25 wouldn't already know. Here's a "guidline": If you believe you are being lied to, you probably are. If you purchase a book with a title that suggests a specific group of people are the cause for your woes....well, it's probably going to take more than reading to clean up that part of your life.

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Summary: Your Self-Respect Also Impacts Men
Review: Although I've read this book years ago, I was drawn towards this book, last night, just to review my notes in the margins, because a man whom I've only went out with 3 times, went out of his way to evade answering my questions.

Every woman should read this book, more than once, because we are conditioned to choke off the truth, when we are starting to date someone new. We want to be nice, and that's good.

But it isn't good if we are nice to someone else, at the expense of our own worthiness.

Men are socialized to lie to avoid their fear of women's anger, because it brings up insecurities in many men, who have spent their lives running away from their emotions.

Because I read this book several times, and because I have written notes in the margins, I am empowered to choose what I want.

For example, if a man say's, "Oh, it wasn't that," he is evading your subject, and his feelings.

And here are 4 reasons why:
1. He wants his thoughts, feelings, and actions to be inaccessible to you.
2. He wants to build upon your good faith and acquiescence.
3. He intends to do what he wants to do, without your knowledge.
4. He has no desire to be accountable to you.

Now, if you turn these reasons around, asking yourself what the long-term affect this would be upon your life, you will notice that you will question your sanity, if you don't confront his dishonesty, and appreciate the persistent rumbling in your gut.

You would also leave it up to him to give you permission to be who you are.

Many women look the other way, because to directly look at these lies, would also lead to confronting some mis-truths that women are socialized and bound by.

But, again, the long term affect is terrible.

So, any woman reading this review, please read this book, and choose to do as I do, let go of any man who desperately needs to run away from himself. Your life is too precious to be his dumping ground.

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Summary: A Work of Impeccable Scholarship
Review: Dolly Hollander, Ph.D., has done us all a great service by delivering the deep insight and principled fairness that inform this book. 101 Lies Men Tell Women tells us something we all need to know, and constantly remember, about men: they are deceitful, unreliable and intrinsically malicious. Dr. Hollander is to be commended for pointing this out in language that is sure to inspire, enthrall and enlighten. I cannot say enough good things about this book. It is simply brilliant. As a man myself, I can confirm that men lie constantly. We can't help it. It's our nature. If you doubt it for even a second, reread this review!

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Summary: Not insighful - out to make quick buck
Review: I agree with the reviewer who wrote that she "hates men." It's interesting that her other book is about career consulting....and this one comes on the tail of all the Mars vs. Venus and Dr. Laura material. Anyone else think she is simply jumping on the bandwagon and trying to make a quick buck in an area she knows little more about than an average joe?

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Summary: insightful
Review: I cannot believe some of these lies that men have admitted to. I could hardly put this book down. Learn how to spot a liar and get the truth out of him! What woman hasn't been lied to? Yes, Dory seems a bit wary of the opposite sex, but a lot of women are after being lied to so often. Protect your heart and learn when you're being lied to.

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Summary: this is the worst
Review: So men are the biggest liars? sorry but not true.I believe this writer has an axe to grind probably from a relationship that didn't work out.Some writers write for themselves and not for others.I know a lesbian,and guess what? Women have LIED to her!
Glory BE! a woman telling a tall tale! nah,,,YES!
A lie can take place in any relationship wether straight or gay,any relationship.
Don't waste your money on this hateful male bashing book!

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Summary: Dory hates men
Review: The author obviously hates men. I was particularly amused by one of her examples in chapter 7. She relates how Donna who was engaged to Lance a soon to be Naval Academy graduate cheats on him while working as a camp counselor by having a summer love affair. Lance discovers the infidelity unbeknownst to Donna. Lance deceives Donna into believing he still loves her and will marry her after graduation. He continues to see her and have sex with her and dumps her when he graduates. The author scathingly vilifies Lance while forgiving Donna's deceiptful betrayal. Golly, sounds like Donna got what she deserved and Lance got a little deserved payback that Donna can ponder about the rest of her life as she asks herself per the author's viewpoint "Why did Lance dump me?"

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Summary: Details and insights
Review: The book is filled with stories and detailed interpretations of how lying by men to women works. It is not driven by "hate" of men, as "A Reader" suggests, but by the desire to reveal and understand. The men emerge (almost) as much as victims of their lies as the women.