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Summary: Quite Practical Wisdom!
Review: Men are from Mars and Women from Venus is a practical guide to improve communication and getting along better in relationship. Men and women are born with differences and the very fact that Eve's desire right from the Temptation garden of Eden made men and women explore the relationship endlessly. Couples need to accept the differences, tune in for better relationship by improving communication, caring and understanding. The author focus on the ego, pride and hurt issues arised from negative thinking of the partners. He explains various situations, examples and solutions for effective communication, action role and adjustments when a couple encounters anger, insults, fights, bickerings, humiliation or the sort. When a woman offers unsolicited advice, she has no idea of how critical and unloving she may sound to him. Her criticism ways do offend and hurt and these are the times men needs her loving acceptance. When a woman tries to improve a man, he feels she is trying to fix him! He thinks he's broken. He is humiliated! She thinks she is helping him to grow or showing her territory ways. Women tend to have mood swings, high jinxed sometimes and its when Life really stings! Men rule his power, often unperturbed to the emotions of women, sometimes bad communicators as John says, the differences between the two calls for a resolve to misunderstandings arisen which leads to broken hearts in an affair if not practically taken care. John's book is indeed a practical guide to accept the differences and walk hand in hand to chase the blues away in life. Its afterall, wavelengths that need to match!
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Summary: Two educated people make a marriage work better!
Review: Now that I know where my husband is from, things are not quite as difficult to understand. I say this in jest but the fact is that men and women are not the same. This has been told to us in a number of ways and parents are told to raise their children as neither a boy nor a girl. The tragedy in this is that children do not learn to enjoy and respect the differnces they are born with. From the start boys are more agressive in play and girls more nurturing. This book just makes sense because it looks at who we really are. This book will not work unless you can see both sides of the story and also get your husband to read it (I am working on that one!) We have a good foundation in our marriage and have made it to the 4 year mark. I believe the first step is a commitment to stay with your partner no matter what. This provides a safe enviroment for growth and harmony. Perhaps page 49 on blame is one of the most important points. Being defensive doesn't work! John Gray also adds a touch of humor (the title itself is funny) to many pages, yet his lighthearted approach in no way masks the real truths contained in these pages. I think John Gray has learned what to do and not to do from his own life experience.
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Summary: Laura
Review: This book has always been on my "must read" list but it wasn't until a little while ago that I actually picked it up and read it from cover to cover. From what I have experienced in my past relationships this book was dead on. Men are like rubberbands stretching and needing space, which if you give it to them they will spring back to you and women are like waves that go in a series of highs and lows. However, I felt that at times the author was repeating himself over and over to make the book thicker. What could have been said in a page he would say in a chapter. However, this is a must read for anyone interested in why the opposite sex behaves the way they do. It truly makes you understand them more and it helps you put yourself in their position.
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Summary: WORDS OF WISDOM WITH A LITTLE PSYCHOLOGY ON THE SIDE
Review: This is a fantastic book which will give you a better understanding of what men and women need in their relationship, and why each responds to situations in a different manner. Why do men need to "withdraw into their cave?" Bearing the fact men are not mind readers, how do you tell the man in your life what you really need? Encourage your spouse or partner to read this book or better still, share the experience of reading it together. A man who recently separated from his wife, said to me, after reading this book, "Gee, maybe now I know what I was doing wrong. Why didn't she tell me?" Well, perhaps she tried but, being a "Martian," perhaps he did not know how to interpret the message of one from "Venus." This book provides a straight-forward approach to communication, which as a counsellor, I have found lacking in many relationships. The book will explain how men and women express themselves in a different manner, how each can interpret the meaning in a different way, and how we can effectively respond. I highly recommend this plain and simple book. After reading it, you will truly be able to see that while both genders have a different way of expressing themselves, and different quirks that make them tick, we really do not come from different planets; sometimes it just seems that way. It makes an excellent conversation piece on the bedside table for those late night, intimate little talks.
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Summary: not really!
Review: WELL! this book is not excately what i expected.
the author keeps repeating himself, not only his ideas but even the phrases as well! he keeps going on in circles..which only weakens the point. a chapter of 20 pages or so just keeps repeating one simple idea it is like he wanted to make sure we memorized the whole book before we put it down which is kinda annoying!while reading it i felt the author saying ''ok! repeat after me..''!
to be fare the book got some helpful ideas and a psycological analaysis which is not bad. but the book is like saying something in 180 pages while u can sum it in five simple words!
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Summary: Wish I had read this long ago
Review: When this book came out, I convinced myself that "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" was just another empty-headed, catchily-titled, self-help franchise. "Mars/Venus" certainly has become a franchise, but here I am wishing I had read it years ago!
In "Mars/Venus," John Gray shares fascinating insights into the disparate emotional lives of men and women. In some ways, the books seems to confirm ancient stereotypes about the sexes, which makes me a bit wary. Men occasionally need to retreat to their "caves." Women's moods oscillate for no particular reason, putting them in a "well." Whatever the truth to these assertions, Gray's main message is that when a man understands how utterly different the female emotional experience is from his own, he might stop expecting her to react as he would, giving her the kind of love and support she *really* needs. And vice versa.
The strength of the book lies in the strong visual images it uses to hammer home its points: the Rubber Band, the Cave, the Tornado, the Well. The section detailing the way men and women score love "points" was hilarious and eye-opening. Save the diamond necklaces fellas. You'll get as much appreciation if you take her to the movies! The book's self-help techniques were also impressive. The Love Letter, described in Chapter 11, gives women and men a safe way to express anger, sadness, fear, regret and love, and to imagine how their partner would ideally respond. The partner can be spouse, parent (past or present), self (past or present) or even the deity.
The book's weakness is its length, repetitiveness and perhaps its lack of originality. This was especially evident in the audio version, in which charts (which might have been scanned visually in the book) had to be read in their entirety. Entire sections in the middle chapters seem to echo material from earlier in the book. Perhaps this was done deliberately to help readers grasp points by dint of sheer repetition. But there were sections in the 8-CD unabridged version that I skipped without loss of information. I'm also concerned somewhat about contentions that Gray borrowed his materials from others. But whether all ideas originate with him, I congratulate him for packaging them in a way that is understandable and helpful.
"Mars/Venus" will expose mens' dirty little secret that we are fragile and emotional creatures. Men are fearful of many things, in Gray's on-target opinion, not least of which is rejection or lack of admiration by the woman they love. Gray also shows the logic behind the male-confounding "emotional" responses of women. Gray not only exposes the differing perspectives that men and women bring to relationships, but advises them on how to navigate the stormy seas of love. By changing the way they respond to each other, Gray hopes that men and women can get the emotional support they both crave.
Note: At 8 CDs, the unabridged version is too long. But the abridged version is only two CDs shorter! In any case, the reader was wonderful.
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Summary: Utterly ridiculous and insulting to both sexes
Review: Yet another author trying to cash in on pseudoscience. Many people who are in need of an introductory biology class like to take it into their heads that there's this magical world of difference between male and female brains. Despite that those of us in the biopsychology field are having no luck finding an inherent difference between male and female brains, people seem to like to hear it, so authors exploit that. What's ironic is it's this separative attitude that is probably causing couples' misunderstandings of each other in the first place.
Not understanding the opposite sex? I'm willing to bet you're missing one of the following three things:
1. Respect them.
2. Listen to them.
3. Communicate. In other words, when you're not happy about something, say so firmly but respectfully.
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