Avoiding Power Struggles With Kids

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Summary: "More of the same" is just what this doctor orders!
Review: To really get good at Love & Logic, most parents and teachers find that they must "reprogram" themselves. Changing old habits can be difficult to do, even if it is worth it. But repetition of this Love & Logic "classic" IS worthwhile for most people.
The Key principles of Love & Logic - preserving the child/teen's self-concept, empathy before consequence, shared thinking, and shared control - just do not come naturally and easily for most parents reared in our "drill sergeant" cultural norm for parenting. The latter approach does not work (well or AT ALL) for many children and teens. But, when done right, Love & Logic often does work well, without anger, lectures, threats or warning. And as a result, after a "Love & Logic moment" with a challenging child/teen, parents and teachers walk away feeling good --rather than angry or feeling guilty over what they said or did.
Thus we get back to the title - "more of the same". When you have decided that you ARE going to change a habit (e.g. unsuccessful parenting style), what often helps most is repetition and practice. Listening to L & L words of wisdom over and over, and over again, (or reading and reading again) is probably the most cost effective way of reprogramming yourself.
This is the only behavioral approach I initially recommend for children and teens who are perceived as being "ADHD, ODD, ASD, Strong-Willed, etc." or otherwise challenging. It is hard work at first. Give yourself one month for each year of age of the oldest child to seriously work on it before you decide it is not for you. If you are having REALLY serious problems with your child/teen, seek out professional one-on-one help from someone familiar with L & L, as your first choice, if available.
Work at it -- you and your kids are worth it!
A. W. Atkinson, MD, Board Certified in Developmental-Behavioral Pediatrics

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Summary: More of the same thing
Review: While I am a new believer in the love and logic approach to parenting, I feel this audio tape is just a "greatest hits" of the Parenting with Love and Logic book. I need more support, not reruns of stories I've already heard. If I had it to do over, I wouldn't make this purchase.