Love Must Be Tough

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Summary: This book confused me
Review: I think that this book and philosophy would work for some people, but not for me. I especially did not like what he said at the end of the book. He encouraged people to take back their cheating spouses, even if they can't trust them again. And forgive me if I am wrong, but isn't taking back someone who is mistreating you, even if that person changes, showing that you don't have self-respect?

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Summary: One book that every couple should read
Review: James Dobson is a genious when it comes to understanding relationships and bucking polically correct conventional wisdom. This book is full of suggestions and points that most people will probably not want to hear but need to hear. That is why love must be tough.

The examples used in this book cover a wide variety of situations. Dr. Dobson give the perfect suggestion for each.

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Summary: This book saved my marriage
Review: My husband began having an affair with a co-worker but I only suspected something was amiss. I eventually did get confirmation of this. During this time of suspiscion (sp?), I had been reading books on how to improve my marriage and how I should be treating my husband. I tried those techniques and he said basically, "Too late, anything you do might just backfire." He moved out then filed for divorce. Then I heard about this book and thought I might as well give it a try too... after I'd been reading lots about affairs and such. I followed this book to the letter. Thank you so much Dr. Dobson. You helped save my marriage. My husband said one of the reasons he came back was a letter I sent to him - suggested from this book. He was gone 8 long weeks before he decided that this divorce wasn't what he really wanted. I know if it hadn't been for this book, he might've eventually come home (maybe), but I'm not so sure. Please get this book. You will not be disappointed. I told my husband that the day he called me wanting to see me, I'd been praying constantly that he'd come to his senses. He said he heard it loud and clear. We are not even religious people, but it worked...!

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Summary: if Adultery is the problem......
Review: This is a great book if the problem is an extramarital affair. I am a Christian and I do believe allot of what he says....but most marriages are not as cut and dry as his examples and few, very few I suspect, are as wonderful as his own. When the problems seem insurmontable is when a person becomes open to an affair, and I would have liked to have seen more about how to prevent that slow decline from happening in the first place. Just saying that you should demand more respect is not very helpful!

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Summary: it worked exactly the first time
Review: This is a very interesting book, and Dobson's views are clearly based on Biblical principles. In his tough love approach, he outlines the way someone should deal with a spouse who has cheated on them. Although the temptation will be there to try to win back the person with affection, Dobson illustrates this is 180 degrees away from the best approach - very counter-intuitive to most folks. However, Dobson gives no guarantees, as even the "best approach" may be destined to failure.

I highly encourage anybody going through marital crisis to read this book, but not share it with your spouse.

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Summary: Not just for the desperate
Review: Whether or not you are in a relationship this is a great book. It shares some very important principals on how to maintain self-respect in a romantic relationship, while also maintaining Christ's loving attitude. This book is empowering...it empowers the reader to trust God, and to trust his/her own ability to be strong.
A great book for men or women, singles, dating, or married couples!