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Summary: In a world gone crazy, this book brings biblical refreshment
Review: Jam packed with biblical info on child training. In a pop-psychology world, this book takes a sound biblical approach to the subject. The most thorough and well written book on child training I've ever come across. Richard Fugate does not give his "opinions" but God's. Another good book on the subject is CHILD TRAINING TIPS by Reb Bradley. As a mother of 7, I am forever grateful for authors like these, who are unwilling to compromise Godly principals in a world that is predominantly self-oriented and undisciplined. If more parents would follow the guidelines set forth (by God) in this book, we would not have the ever increasing problems with the youth that we now have in our once-Christian nation.
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Summary: One of most biblically-sound books written!
Review: Note: This is a review of the 1980 edition. Saturated with biblical support, the book opens with the God-ordained concepts of creation, leadership, authority, and obedience. Fugate then links these concepts to parental responsibility and a child's obedience. The author then shows how a child's response to physical authorities(parents, teachers, government) influence his or her response to the authority of God and His Word. A must reading for anyone striving to be a godly parent and praying for the salvation of their children. A must for every new parent!.
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Summary: What absolute arrogance!
Review: One reviewer wrote:
"My kids are now 19, 16, 13 and 10 and I don't have a rebellious one among them, they are respectful, law abiding, drug, alcohol and premarital sex free."
Ah...if it were that simple to say that one's parenting was successful! I am the third of 3 children. My brother entered the Air Force at the age of 18 and appeared to be "respectful, law abiding, drug, alcohol, and premarital sex free." Even two years later when I turned 16 it seemed that this description could be applied still to my brother, as well as my older sister who was 17, as well as myself. My parents were so confident of the success of their parenting that my father was a "family peer counselor" at work.
Of course 2 months later all he** broke loose when my sister and I spoke up about the abuse we were enduring at the hands of our "Christian" parents. We left home to live with a teacher from our school. For $500 my sister later married an illegal immigrant to help him stay in the US (she later got an annullment when it was impressed upon her that what she had done was ILLEGAL). My sister most likely has abused alcohol. She has probably had several sexual partners. She is emotionally stunted at about the level of an 11 year old because our parents did not deal with her learning disabilities when she was a child, even when notified on several occassions by school authorities (we later found out that our step-mother had never told our father of several of the contacts made--most noteably when her first grade teacher called home to report that she was sitting on the curb outside of the school staring off into space, and didn't even respond when the teacher physically stood her up and walked her into the classroom--she "snapped out of it" after entering the school building--she was in a fantasy world that she retreated into more and more as the years passed and the abuse escalated).
I myself ended up loosing my virginity when I was 19, though my only other partner has been my husband. My brother...no...he still has not engaged in premarital sex. Of course he is 36 and has never been on a date--he is so messed up psychologically that he weighs well over 300 lbs and probably never will go on a date.
I'm quite sure my parents would endorse this book and feel that it gave support to their methods.
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Summary: Interperting the Bible Correctly
Review: Richard Fugate manipulates the word of God so deftly in this book. He takes Holy, Blessed words and uses them to validate his abuse of his children. If one truely cares for his child and what the Bible says about their children they would do better to burn Fugate's book for light so they can read the Bible for themselves and see what the true word of God is. His flagrant manipulation of the Bible is a shame and it is a further shame if people follow his book and abuse their children.
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Summary: One of the most biblically-sound books ever written!
Review: Saturated with sound biblical support, the book opens with the God-ordained concepts of creation, authority, leadership, and obedience. Fugate then links these biblical concepts to the responsibility of parents in parenting and the child's respect of authority. The author then shows how our children's response to physical authorities(parents, teachers, government) will influence his or her response to the authority of God and His Word. This book is a must for anyone striving to be a godly parent and praying for the salvation of their children! Every new Christian parent should own one! Order the 1998 edition!
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Summary: Greatest book revealing Biblical principles for parents.
Review: The most resourceful book pointing parents back to the greatest book, the Holy Bible, God's Word. It points out many practical ways for parents to not only hear God's word on child training, but to put it to action. Much needed!!!
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Summary: Fugate's book is a concise outline of Biblical parenting.
Review: The title of this book is a true representation of its contents. The author takes scriptures concerning the plan God has laid out for rearing children and makes them real for today. The basic information given is available in the Bible, but the author has made it easy access for today's busy parents. The second edition offers real life testimonies and comments from parents and from the author about how God's plan works. This is definitely a great training tool for new and old parents.
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Summary: Using God as an excuse to commit child abuse
Review: This book goes so far as to describe (with sickening humor) the kind and sizes of weapons to beat children of various ages with... yes, even babies and adolescents. There is no demonstration of any understanding of child development. The entire goal seems to be to beat children into submission, using pain as the "teacher", all in the name of raising a "Godly" child. Fugate's Biblical interpretations are questionable and appeal only to the most rigid of authoritarian mentalities. This book describes a very effective way to turn children AWAY from God. It is very sad... so sad, and is dangerous to the well being of any child who has parents who accept the advice of abuse this book dictates. The Christian parent would find much better advice in the Discipline Book by Dr. William Sears (a pediatrician and a Christian).
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Summary: FOR SERIOUS DISCIPLES OF CHRIST DESIRING GODLY CHILDREN
Review: This book is a breath of fresh air to this no discipline society we live in. God is not a cushy pillow that we take out for comfort. He is a God who is serious and a jealous God He desires His people to live a Godly upright life. We are to be lights in the darkness and our children are our lights. We need to prepare them to face this world and raise them in the understanding of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. God says it is because He loves that he disciplines us. We all need to be faced with the consequences of our sin. Let us instill that to our children now so that they dont run from their problems as they get older. This book is right on with what God's word says. If you disagree then you really are not looking at scripture with the eyes of the Lord. Yes, He is a loving God but He loves us too much to just leave us the way we are. Sometimes that hurts and it hurts really bad. So, dont even bother reading this book unless you have completely laid down your life for Jesus Christ.
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Summary: Behaviorist child rearing supported by scripture twisting...
Review: This book is based entirely on the Old Testament, and is directly opposed to the New Testament verses on child rearing, namely:"And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." Ephesians 6:4 "Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged." Colossians 3:21 As young parents, we tried to follow this book ourselves - my mother, a Christian I respect, finally asked that we stop. When I said that the book used the same techniques my parents had used, she reminded me of how poorly these techniques worked on one of her own children, and asked me not to make the same mistakes she had. The Bible says that the older women in the church are to teach the younger ones to (among other things) "love their children" (Titus 2:4). All the Christian Grandmas I consulted condemned Fugate's system as cruel and unloving. So I sat down and researched the Bible verses Fugate cites for myself, rather than simply assuming Fugate treated the Bible with respect. I discovered that the Bible does *not* support this system of child rearing. Spanking is *not* required by the Bible. It is allowed in the Old Testament, just as slavery is allowed in the New, but that does not mean it is God's ideal. Christians who agree to be beaten when they act as fools (in accordance with Proverbs 26:3), may feel free to apply the literal rod to their children. But those of us who feel that the forgiveness in the New Testament frees us of that punishment are hypocrites if we spank our children - it violates the Golden Rule to treat someone else as we refuse to be treated. And if we don't understand that Christ's sacrifice frees us of such punishment, we need a refresher course in God's grace! The techniques Fugate recommends are the same ones used by many ancient pagan cultures and endorsed by modern behaviorists. They are popular because they work beautifully if your goal is to create "good citizens" - and if your definition of "good citizen" is someone who fits into society and does not make waves. But they are very poor techniques if your goal is to raise "good Christians." This system can emotionally cripple your children and encourage them to fit in with their peers rather than to stand out like "a light on a hill." Some Christians do want their children to be trained to mindlessly conform to authority. And behaviorists have evidence that the techniques used in this book do encourage mindless conformity. I suppose if the Christian parents could be positive the authority the children conform to as adults is always Christian, this system could work out - but it can be tricky in our culture to be sure your children will always be under a Christian's authority. I prefer to raise social renegades. Christ, the apostles, and the prophets were all social renegades, and the loving childrearing techniques that really are based on the New Testament are more likely to result in children who follow God, not man.
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