When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal

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Summary: Unbelievable
Review: The stories in this book made me feel as if someone had actually witnessed some of the incidents that have happened in my marriage. When you are involved in one of these relationships, you become so adept at lying to yourself, that you cannot believe what is happening. You feel like you are completely alone. This was EXACTLY how I felt. This book was enlightening in that it showed me that I am not alone. Oftentimes, I got goosebumps while reading. It was so very real and accurate, and for the first time I could see my relationship as someone else. It made what had happened real, and gave me the reassurance that the steps I had already taken in leaving my spouse were justified. It was almost haunting how someone you don't know at all could have such insight into the thing you have become most adept at hiding. I found it hard to put down, and find myself re-reading and highlighting passages. If you have EVER been lied to - about infidelity, finances, past relationships, ANYTHING - this book is a must read.

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Summary: A helpful book to understand both him and youself
Review: This book is, in one word, TERRIFIC!! Although I purchased this book for my daughter, who just recently went through a divorce due to a marriage based on lies, I found it very enlightening in the view of a mother-in-law who had accepted her daughter's husband like a son of her own. His lying was not confined to just his wife, but filtered down to his relationships with others as well, myself included. This book showed me that my feelings almost "mourning" at the loss of the bond between all of us are completely natural and that it is all right to grieve. It also showed me that, sometimes when a marriage is so damaged by untruths, it is necessary to get out. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, and given the suggestions offered in this book, you will survive and find love again but, this time, with a wisdom gained from the experience you've been forced to endure.

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Summary: This is book is shockingly accurate!
Review: When I picked this book I knew that it would just tell me things that I already knew, and it did. I just never thought that seeing things that I knew on paper and in someone else's words would effect me the way that this book does. After the third page I just burst into tears because I knew that after all the things that transpired between me and my lover, as well as, my analysis of the situation and his response to my analysis, I was not crazy. Someone out there could not have so accurately put my life on paper unless this subject as not as uncommon as people would like to pretend. I started feeling like Susan knew my lover. I have only finished the first half and I have already found such peace with myself that I could not even wait to write a review. This book is excellent and it speaks to life. The author is very intuitive and has obviously done her homework. I could only put it into words know I know that there is a term for the kind of lying that's going on. He is definitely the sociopath. I didn't wait to the end because I know that if the first half has been so helpful the second half is going to have a huge impact on my life.