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Summary: Manipulative rules in relationships.
Review: In this world where people, especially WOMEN, are seeking for equality of the sexes, I can't believe anyone is still reading this book! The authors give you rules to learn how to be manipulative in relationships.. If a man learns that you are playing these manipulative games, he will immediately think "manituplative ...!". (you would too if men play these games on you!)
FOLLOWING THE RULES IN THIS BOOK, ONLY TURNS WOMEN INTO OBJECTS TO BE CONQUERED BY MEN. PROJECTS TO ACHIEVE, instead of being treated like a real person! And you can know why...
This book's 'rules' only makes women seem cold, unfriendly, stuck up and no personality kind of person! Which men in this world would want a woman like that! Try to see it from a man's point of view. If you are a man, would you fall for a girl who follows the "Rules"? Do you want a COLD MAN? DOes a man want a COLD WOMAN?
WHat is this thing about not calling a man, even if you want to? In a research, it is found that majority of shy people in the world are MEN! And in a seminar (of about 90 people), they asked which men would like to girl to be more open, maybe giving them a call if the girl likes the man. AN amazing 100% of the men raised their hands!
No men like a cold human being. Neither do you. It doesnt mean you have to go all out as a desperate idiot to make men fall for you, but how about acting with sincereity, kindness, friendliness, and you will attract more people liking you. Why follow the rules, when you can be someone better and more worthwhile?
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Summary: A little bit dissapointed....
Review: A bit disappointing with the information content compared to the first book written. Chapters are a rather brief, author does not give much thought into putting depth into each chapter. I was looking forward to alot more content.
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Summary: These books are not as horrible as you think
Review: As someone who considers herself a highly intelligent, well-educated individual, I originally turned up my nose at these "manipulative" Rules, claiming, after having read the first book, that they would only work on a certain, superficial type of man. But let me tell you what I've discovered - acting as if you like yourself and your life and that you are just as happy without a man as with one is the only way to ever really find happiness *with* one! Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider have been slammed for writing these books, when in actuality the message they are trying to get across is: "stop being so pathetic, stop sitting around daydreaming about how some guy will make your life perfect, because when you think that way, you're *bound* to end up looking needy and desperate!" I think the reason these books offended so many "feminists" is because even feminists act this way! Even the most intelligent, intellectual, well-educated women in the world doodle their first name with the dream guy's last name, daydream about their wedding, etc...yet hate it about themselves. The bottom line is, don't knock "The Rules" books just because they appear calculating and manipulative. Granted, there are brainless bimbos out there who follow the book to the letter without ever getting the greater message, whose only goal is getting a rich husband. But these books are also great "how-to" guides for those of us who *know* we have to stop being doormats and that we have a tendency to rationalize it by saying we're just "being open and honest". I also recommend "Men Like Women Who Like Themselves".
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Summary: These books are not as horrible as you think
Review: As someone who considers herself a highly intelligent, well-educated individual, I originally turned up my nose at these "manipulative" Rules, claiming, after having read the first book, that they would only work on a certain, superficial type of man. But let me tell you what I've discovered - acting as if you like yourself and your life and that you are just as happy without a man as with one is the only way to ever really find happiness *with* one! Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider have been slammed for writing these books, when in actuality the message they are trying to get across is: "stop being so pathetic, stop sitting around daydreaming about how some guy will make your life perfect, because when you think that way, you're *bound* to end up looking needy and desperate!" I think the reason these books offended so many "feminists" is because even feminists act this way! Even the most intelligent, intellectual, well-educated women in the world doodle their first name with the dream guy's last name, daydream about their wedding, etc...yet hate it about themselves. The bottom line is, don't knock "The Rules" books just because they appear calculating and manipulative. Granted, there are brainless bimbos out there who follow the book to the letter without ever getting the greater message, whose only goal is getting a rich husband. But these books are also great "how-to" guides for those of us who *know* we have to stop being doormats and that we have a tendency to rationalize it by saying we're just "being open and honest". I also recommend "Men Like Women Who Like Themselves".
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Summary: Great relationship book - changed my life!
Review: Before I knew about The Rules (I or II) I was always a doormat, wasting years of my life and getting hurt in every relationship. I dated guys who didn't really care about me. I gave everything I could and they just kept taking. When The Rules was first publicized I scoffed and laughed at those "manipulative games" that "put women back 50 years" because I had a real relationship. I didn't need those silly rules. Then I got dumped and found out my boyfriend had been cheating on me for the past year. That real relationship I had, where I didn't need flowers or candy or nice dates left me with nothing but a broken heart. I admitted my way of dating wasn't working and decided to try The Rules. Now I'm happily married to a great guy. He's all I could ask for and he loves me for who I am. I didn't have to try to trap him or win his love. I was just me, did TR, and lived a happy life. I recommend this book to any woman who is having relationship problems or wants to get married. A few of us Rules Girls have started a relationship website/chat boards to help others: http://www..geocities.com/rulesgirlsonline/ If you need relationship advice or just want to chat stop on by.
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Summary: They work.
Review: Call The Rules archaic, as they are. Call them manipulative as I did, all the while being used and manipulated by indecisive players. Finally, after another broken heart from another hedger, I picked The Rules up. I did not like the writing style of the authors, but I followed the ones that made sense to me. I now call The Rules *effective*, as I sit staring at the juicy 1.5K rock on my finger from a moral, intelligent, successful, handsome, kind man. If you've followed another path and had success, more power to you. I know what worked for me.
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Summary: Rules 2,a good book for emotional protection but NOT love
Review: I am a 40 year old male,that divorced and am now married to the love of my life and BEST FRIEND.I feel that the Rules 2 may offer some comfort and direction to woman that have been burned,however it may lead to one holding back love and emotion in a relationship. The bottomline is, that in order to get a lot out of a relationship,a person has to put a lot in,no matter if they are male or female.One can't develop full trust and friendship with role and game playing.I simply say this to all ladies: "Don't expect to make or expect major changes in a guy.Simply come as you are to the relationship,be YOUR best,not anyone elses and follow your heart and don't force the thing to happen.The ideal guy will learn to appreciate you for who you are ,if he really loves you.STOP being obssessed with worry about how big your butt looks in pants and enjoy life.A guy that you have to use these or any RULES on is not worth your time!"Without being crude ,I know that in my case ,my wife is the one that has the higher sex drive and enjoys sex,it is a myth to think that only men want sex on a date.While I teach chemistry and physics for a living,I am quite certain that there are no balanced equations or RULES for falling in love.
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Summary: Read the book.
Review: I don't think The Rules should be followed like a Bible, but there are some very valid points-- about 75% in my estimation-- in there. The media, as usual, likes to quote out of context to devalue the entire book. For example, the media hypes the rule that a woman should not accept a date for Saturday after Wednesday. True, the book cites the theory that the woman who agrees to a last-minute date will enable a man to use her as a last resort for that weekend when the women he truly likes turn him down, and he is less likely to respect her because of it. However, the book also makes the valid point that a woman should be busy and fulfilled with hobbies outside of dating. Not only will this make her less desperate for a man, but she'll be more interesting to date because of her activities. Therefore, a woman should be active enough that she has at least a vague idea of other things to do for the weekend if the telephone does not ring by Thursday, so she'll be telling the truth when she tells a guy who asks her on Saturday afternoon for a Saturday night date. Appropos to this, in college I was puzzled when some men in the dorms labled various women "Karen" even when their names were otherwise. Women got this title by being sure-thing dates when the women the men really wanted to date were busy, and "Karens" rarely got to meet a guy's parents. One day I learned why these females were called Karen. It rhymes with Guarantee. Read The Rules II.
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Summary: It works
Review: I guess it depends on what you want in a man. If you follow these guidlines, you're likely to net a man with confidence, a drive for success, persistence and self-esteem. The harder you work to reach a goal, the more you convince yourself of the validity of that goal. That's what the man is thinking. Ladies, just don't abuse it. Let the man know he is wanted. Every now and then you must show him your interest. He's got to know you're interested. If you don't, he'll start to believe it will never be worth his effort. Good luck.
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Summary: A Clue for the Clueless
Review: I have met, chased, been dumped twice by and finally caught by Mr Right. The first two times we dated, things would go well and then I'd start analysing and get clingy (as I did with all my relationships.) The first time he called the third time we dated (we dated and stopped dating THREE TIMES over four years)I had a copy of The Rules in front of me-- strangely opened to the page that said something to the effect of, "Don't be too excied when he calls. . . Get off the phone first-- you are busy and have a life!" I considered it destiny, said it was great hearing from him but that I was only home for a few minutes but had to run as I had an appointment. He asked me for dinner that weekend-- I said I was busy on Friday (I didn't tell him that I was doing laundry!)and he tied me down for Saturday. (Very Rules of me!) I enjoyed that date, and I wanted it to go on for forever. But the Rules said no-- end the evening first. I told him I was teaching Sunday school the next morning and had to be home by midnight for my beauty rest. He dropped me off and met me and my kids at the church the next morning. The date DID go on for Forever-- we married three months later. He later told me that when he called he had been thinking of me-- I was a nice, single mom with three terrific kids and he had decided that I was intellectually great as a friend but that I was too fragile for a romance. He planned on sowing the seeds for a gradual friendship to be built again, but that he was shocked that as needy as I had been, I was suddenly doing other things. He really liked this new woman and wanted to know me better, and he was suddenly having to work to get my attention! As recommended in the books, I decided to not call him if I didn't hear from him-- he didn't call me once for three days and I had made certain to make plans for the next weekend, so oh-well. I waited for him to make the moves. He did. If I had plans with the kids, he even offered to join us-- and he paid for all of us just to be "taking care of me." He worked a shift job the first two years after we wed, and I was always getting called every night he was gone. At a Christmas party everyone said how proud of me he was as he bragged about my community involvment and how he couldn't wait to come home to me. The Rules I & II advised me on how to act under difficult circumstances and I did them-- it is hard to not vomit your feelings out when you feel the weight of the world on your shoulders, but timing was crucial and as a result, he was happier and we couldn't wait for one another. HE will buy our daughters copies of both for their thirteenth birthdays and to encourage them to be active women with more than romance on their minds. Even when the hormones are screaming that a boy is the be-all/end-all, he'll have more to advise them with as far as saying, "You are worth more than this."
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