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Summary: An Outstanding Summary of Gender Equity Issues
Review: "Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say" is Dr. Warren Farrell's best book yet. Few people are able to write about the masculist perspective and gender equity issues as well as Dr. Farrell. You have got to read this book! For you readers who are familiar with men's issues, you may be tempted, as I was, to read Part III first. Dr. Farrell continues to challenge us to see gender equity issues from a new and balanced perspective in the articulate and documented style that you will recognize. However, the content is updated with new data and relevance for the 90's and into the new millennium.Don't skip Part I, the section on communication, and how to give and receive criticism. It is the foundation for Dr. Farrell's work, and sets up the reader to hear what is said in the rest of the book. His work in counseling, communication, and listening is what sets Dr. Farrell apart from the others. He offers a positive approach to greater understanding between men and women by insisting that both sides' perspectives be spoken and heard. He does this without sacrificing or compromising his dedication to exposing men's issues in a clear and balance fashion. Dr. Farrell even expresses a part of his own "internal story" and struggle in writing from a man's perspective. I have often wondered why men's issues are so difficult to express, and how unreceptive people are to discussing them. It is as if we don't have the words to talk about it or people consider it a taboo subject for fear of retribution (loss of love, ridicule, ostracism). "Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say" explains why it is so difficult for men to express their own "internal story", personal struggles, or to question their obligatory roles of providers and protectors. Dr. Farrell's personal style and sincere delivery reveals not only his mastery of the issues, but also his conviction and commitment to real gender equity. Dr. Farrell opens the way to honest communication between men and women in a way that will benefit men, women, and children.
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Summary: An Outstanding Summary of Gender Equity Issues
Review: "Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say" is Dr. Warren Farrell's best book yet. Few people are able to write about the masculist perspective and gender equity issues as well as Dr. Farrell. You have got to read this book! For you readers who are familiar with men's issues, you may be tempted, as I was, to read Part III first. Dr. Farrell continues to challenge us to see gender equity issues from a new and balanced perspective in the articulate and documented style that you will recognize. However, the content is updated with new data and relevance for the 90's and into the new millennium. Don't skip Part I, the section on communication, and how to give and receive criticism. It is the foundation for Dr. Farrell's work, and sets up the reader to hear what is said in the rest of the book. His work in counseling, communication, and listening is what sets Dr. Farrell apart from the others. He offers a positive approach to greater understanding between men and women by insisting that both sides' perspectives be spoken and heard. He does this without sacrificing or compromising his dedication to exposing men's issues in a clear and balance fashion. Dr. Farrell even expresses a part of his own "internal story" and struggle in writing from a man's perspective. I have often wondered why men's issues are so difficult to express, and how unreceptive people are to discussing them. It is as if we don't have the words to talk about it or people consider it a taboo subject for fear of retribution (loss of love, ridicule, ostracism). "Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say" explains why it is so difficult for men to express their own "internal story", personal struggles, or to question their obligatory roles of providers and protectors. Dr. Farrell's personal style and sincere delivery reveals not only his mastery of the issues, but also his conviction and commitment to real gender equity. Dr. Farrell opens the way to honest communication between men and women in a way that will benefit men, women, and children.
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Summary: I can add little to the other reviews
Review: A book that FULLY documented just how badly men are mistreated in this society would have been ten times as large as this one. Still, Farrell makes good use of the space alloted to him, and the overwhelmingly favorable response demonstrated in the other reviews that I have read here show just how long overdue and necessary a book like this is. I have little to add to them, except to say that Robert Howland said everything that I would have wished to say but better since his studies in anthropology give him the academic credibility that I lack. Perhaps I can say the same thing a little more simplistically. I too am extremely grateful to Farrell for putting the lie to that "official" UN Statistic about women doing 2/3 of the world's work for 1/10 the pay. Anyone who has seen how hard men work know that this is one of those "state" lies that HAS to be untrue, but I don't think that there was ever a way to refute it until now. That lie is no less of a LIE and no less pernicious than the content of the "Protocols of the Elders of Zion", but when men (and not Jews or other ethnic minorities) are the target, sensitivity and fairness are tossed out of the window in a Bobbitt-like quest for blood. And like Mr. Howland, I am skeptical of Farrell's notion that all that needs to happen to improve the welfare of men is "better communication". That is too touchy-feely and too SIMPLISTIC an observation. When Valeries Solanas (who shot Andy Warhol) of The Society for Cutting Up Men (SCUM) advocated eliminating men, this was seen as an unrepresentative statement made by someone from the extreme radical wing of the feminist movement. But when male-bashing by the networks and by Madison Avenue is used to lure female consumers EN MASSE into watching TV shows and buying products, virulent HATRED of the male sex can no longer be said to be representative of only an EXTREMIST faction. And consider how many respected journals of opinion, modern-day "Mein Kampfs" talk quite seriously in didactic Solanas-like terms of the supposed "irrelevance" of the male sex and of doing away with men completely. It's crazy to think that "better communication" would change any of this. No, unmotivated hatred of men is a universal problem and it is an attitude probably shared (in varying degrees) by the vast majority of women. So whatever the answer is to this problem, the prescription should be a POLITICAL one and not merely more hugs and kisses. The political solution certainly doesn't rest with the Republican Party, as one other reviewer suggested. The GOP may not be as wedded to feminism as are the Democrats, but feminism and male-bashing are ubiquitous enough forces to have corrupted the ENTIRE system. And when so many men acquiesce in their own oppression, a political solution is that much harder to envision. That's one flaw in the book -- the fact that Farrell assumed that he was speaking for ALL men. In fact, there are many men who willingly participate in their own oppression! Why are there so many MALE feminists? Isn't a male feminist as contemptible and as filled with self-hatred and as oxyMORONIC as would be a Jewish Nazi or a black Klansman? I would have liked to hear what Farrell, as an ex-member of the National Organization for Women (! ), would say to that.
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Summary: Best male-female relationship book I have read.
Review: A shocking look at how our government, educational system, and media operate, and how they are dominated by the feminist perspective. Dr. Farrell provides stacks of college studies and many other examples to prove his point beyond any doubt. He has a concept called the "Lace Curtain". This means censorship by the media, and as a Family Advocate working to lower the divorce rate, I too have experienced this. Written at the level for college graduates, readers will learn much about improving relationships with members of the opposite sex, and the world around them.
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Summary: Perhaps man's best friend is not his dog...
Review: After reading Dr. Farrell's book(s) I have concluded that he is man's best friend, giving voice to the silence that has plaqued men for centuries. Dr. Farrell has presented material which, although somewhat controversial, is germaine, transformational and enlightening to all who are open-minded enough to accept his wisdom and insight. I am a sociology professor and I am using his books in my classes as the information is relevant to courses such as "Marriage and Family," "Gender Relations," and "Human Sexuality." Thank you Dr. Farrell for your honest and straightforward presentation of information, that in my opinion, is long past due. It is time that women loosen the top of the boxes that we have placed men in and helped nailed shut. Perhaps, the time has now arrived for "Maleism" in place of "Feminism." With Dr. Farrell as an advocate for both men and women, maybe the world will become a better place as he assists us in our efforts to heal the division between men and women. The world needs more Dr. Warren Farrell's as they take a stand and present information that serves to help us understand each other,enrich our relationships, and transform our lives.
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Summary: Farrell's Inside Look at Feminism
Review: An ex-member of the board of the NY City chapter of NOW, an experienced marital counselor,and a respected researcher of gender issues, Warren Farrell has experienced feminism from both sides. His newest book, "WOMEN CAN'T HEAR WHAT MEN DON'T SAY", provides an excellent perspective on feminisms'influence on social attitudes toward men. Must reading for every fathers'/mens'rights activist, or anyone interested in a balanced view of gender politics.
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Summary: Finally, a sensible, easy way to give and receive feedback
Review: As always, Warren has detailed significant information on how men and women can better get along. I found this book warm, easy to read, and extremely helpful. Within the first few pages I had gleaned really valuable tools to help me better communicate with my family and friends. I highly recommend it to anyone and everyone.
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Summary: Better get an army.
Review: At last, a book for those women of feminist origins whose souls are steeped in misandry.
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Summary: A must read for all adults - men *and* women
Review: Buy it, check it out from your local library, borrow it -- read it! Excellent advice and insight from a real honest to goodness man on the subject of men's issues. Whereas Fuladi undermines men, Farrell encourages. This is a must read for any woman(or man) wanting ot know more about the modern man, and what he thinks and feels.
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Summary: Will open the eyes of the average reader.
Review: Dr. Farrell continues to logically and systematically tear apart paradigms on gender beliefs and biases in our society. This book is a must read for any person interested in understanding most of today's social issues, especially those around relationships and family. It is exactly from works like this, that the bias in the media against men, and the anger by the feminists against anything male, is exposed (pardon the pun). I can't wait for Dr. Farrell's next book!
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