Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them/1-Audio Cassette

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Summary: This book helped me understand that I was being abused
Review: I bought this book because my family and freinds were telling me that my boyfriend was emotionally abusing me. I didn't want to believe that, but decided to find out what emotional abuse was. This book showed me that I was being abused and that I needed to change some of my own attitudes and behaviors to save my own self-esteem. I found out that though my boyfriend does love me (or thinks he does) he doesn't know how to be with me without hurting me and tearing me down constantly. By being passive and trying to please him I was letting him know it was okay to yell at me and call me names. This book gave me the courage to break off a relationship that was slowly dismantling my life and start to like myself again. I highly recommend this book to anyone who even suspects that they might be in an abusive relationship.

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Summary: Salvation for Self
Review: I didn't want to look at this book, because I didn't want to believe my husband, who I love so much, could hate me. I picked it up out of desperation to find the problem in our relationship and fix it. I didn't find a fix for the relationship, but I did find affirmation that it was the relationship, and not me, that was crazy. Although it was disturbing to "see" behind some of my husband's words and behaviors, it was reassuring to me that other intelligent women had also been seduced into relationships like this...I wasn't alone. There were some suggestions in the book that helped me better cope with some of his behaviors; but ulitmately, it made me realize that without his wanting to change, the relationship was not going to improve. I highly recommend this book to any woman who is in a relationship that makes her question her sanity, her worth, or her future.

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Summary: Women Must Read and Know
Review: I first read this book a long time ago, and over the years have puschased it several times to give to girlfriends, women in abusive relationships, and women in general that I know are troubled by some man they don't understand. It's likely the best book available to show women what a healthy relationship should somewhat resemble, and it shows all the signs of a bad relationship with men who are abusers in the extreme. The books sets all the examples of typical abusive behavior in men, and how to handle it successfully or to leave it completely. It's so incredibly difficult for women to leave an abusive man, and the book provides new hope and new insight into a brand new life free from abuse.

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Summary: A Repentant Misogynist Perspective
Review: I forced myself to read this book after a woman I was in love with dumped me miserably. She cleverly placed it in a paper sack with some of my things she dropped off in a neutral location as a way of saying, "You're such a jerk. This is how I feel. Maybe you should read this." I'll have to admit I don't generally read books like this but I felt challenged. I thought I'd read the book and tell her how stupid the whole thing was. The first point Dr. Susan Forward makes is how misogynists are frightened of abandonment. I thought to myself, "Hey! That's me. I don't care how crazy the relationship gets. I just hate it when they leave. Could I be a misogynist?" I read this book over the next few days and made notes and underlined parts that seemed to make sense. I tried to look at it from a woman's perspective. I stepped outside my own world and tried to open my mind to the possibility that I had made these mistakes in past relationships. I made a conscious effort to think about the things I've said and how it may have been emotional violence. I started to become convinced I was a misogynist and all the women I treated like dirt in the past really did love me but just couldn't take it anymore. This book is filled with options for women and how to stop the cycle of abuse. There are chapters on what a misogynist's parents were like... what kind of therapist a woman should look for... how to react to the misogynist's attacks and why you should never apologize. The rest of the book is about why women should leave, when to leave, how to leave and what to expect after they leave. Near the end of the book the author says a real misogynist can never be cured and he will always be like this so I felt there was nothing I could do. I was left with the sense that I would just have a long string of volatile relationships with loving women who abandon me and there was no way this would change. I really feel she could have included some kind of hope for the men who hate women. I have no idea how to rate this book. If I give it one star then I'll be doomed as a misogynist forever. If I say it's worth five stars I would be lying to you and myself. Ironically this is exactly how I feel when I talk to women. I never know what to say and when I do open my mouth it's always taken out of context. So I guess I'll direct my final thoughts to the men. Read this book to find out how women think before you're abandoned and lost like a pathetic clown.

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Summary: lifesaver book
Review: I found this book quite by accident after leaving a verbally abusive relationship of twenty five years. The book provided answers to a lot of unanswered questions for me. As I married the first man I dated I had nothing to compare to and true to form he isolated me from friends and family. Being separated for three years I still refer to various chapters for verification after having to meet with him. Through this book I have helped my daughter to recognize misogyny and it may be difficult for her to accept this is her Father hopefully this will not be part of her life as an adult.

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Summary: The Sinking Feeling in my Stomach is Gone
Review: I have been with him for 18 years with very slowly increasing verbal abuse. i was totally at a loss for what I could have done and why I felt so bad when I have so much to be happy about ( You know the pretty prison). But I feel great, there are names for what has been going on in my life. I can hear the words he uses to confuse and manipulate and know clearly what is going on. In the middle of his last blow up, I got tickled when he kept saying over and over again the phrases in the book, You dont know what you said, you don't remember, and you know these incidents are anything but funny. I even used the tactics in the book , terrified at the time I was doing it and it worked. of course, this is not over, but for right now , I am one Pleased with myself person. Read the book, re read the book. I feel like a person again. thank you, thank you

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Summary: Just sent this book to my best friend to save her from
Review: I read this book in 1986 and it saved me from continuing in an abusive relationship. I now know that I will never allow anyone to treat me badly. I just ordered and sent this book to my best friend who is in a destructive relationship. If you are struggling w/someone who blames you for everything -- take control and make your own life happy!

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Summary: A Life Saver
Review: I read this book in 1989 while in an abusive marriage. This book gave me the self confidence to get out and move on with my life. I strongly suggest that anyone in the same situation reads this. It can probably help you too.

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Summary: Women Who Hate Men, And Their Research?
Review: I'm afraid that I wasn't as enthusiastic about this book as the other reviewers. The author hits on several good points with regard to identifying and understanding critical behavior on the part of men. Unfortunately, she then concludes that there's little or no hope that a marriage with such a partner can be salvaged. After reading this book, I can't help but wonder how many marriages it has ruined, which could have been saved. Marriage is a wonderful and precious union between two persons. When problems arise, we need to identify them, and then work to fix them. The answer isn't to assign blame, and then cut and run! It would be great to see a second edition of this book, but with a new section dealing with how to change things for the better once you have your spouse's attention.

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Summary: When he says: "They're all Whores"
Review: If you are trying to "prove" how "good, loving, caring, genuine, interested, devoted, and loyal" you are to him, always to find yourslef being not good enough in the end, no matter how hard you try, or what you do, then this book is for you. This book will show you what you have put up with, and how to re-claim your SELF, by setting boundaries that are healthy, and deserved. If you are a guy who truly hates women, then this book will show you why, and how you can view the woman in front of you for who she genuinely is, rather than the blanket label you have attached to her based on previous negative experiences. It is eye opening in the pinpointing of behaviors, reactions, and patterns that cause us all to feel bad in the end. I highly recommend this book to any woman who loves a man she can never please,and any to man who does not "want to love" a woman.