Rating:  Summary: Fair Review: This is reality. Majority of people LIES all the times! So we're living in this world...cruel, stealthy, dishonest, and etc... People always lie to get what they wants and dont give a thing about others. So if you're in that world or in the position, maybe it ain't all that bad to lie to catch a liar. It wouldn't hurt anyway. A little lie to catch a liar. But then again, you shouldn't over-lie. Just make sure you balance everything. This author helps people who are in that position. This book may not be for everyone but for certain people, it helps. It helps me in some ways and it did widens my perspective views.I gave it 3 stars because most of the advices are not new to me but it's a fair rate.
Rating:  Summary: Quick Read, Lots of Pointers Review: I first saw this book at the book store and the title and cover of the book make you want to shy away a little, but it's really what's inside that counts. First of all I read it from cover to cover in maybe 20 mintues, its a quick read because it has different sections from the beginning, reading someones body language, to after you found the lie and how to confront the other person or deal with the matter at hand. The book has quick heading and then more detailed descriptions below and it really lures you in to keep going and going. As one reader mentioned, a lot of it is instinctual but you'd be surprised how many times you were in the same situation but couldn't recognize it or deal with it as easily as the author outlines. A lot of time we know someone is lying but we cant quite prove it, even to ourselves and this book lets you pick up on those little things and read into them more. You'll be amazed how you can relate to the book, I'm sure the things outlined in this book have happened to all of us at one point or another but reading about the meanings and the signs and the approach is another thing all together. Great for relationships with family, siblings, parents, spouces and boy/girlfriends to work and dealing with people on a daily basis.
Rating:  Summary: A very practical book Review: It takes one to know one, and Lieberman often advises you to become the very thing you're trying to detect. That irony aside, one has to grant that he is very insightful about behaviors that liars exhibit. At first I thought this book was too simplistic, and if one picks out just two or three behaviors with which to find liars that would be so, but when one combines the several dozen techniques Lieberman suggests, the real power of his methods show themselves apparent. I think a warning is in order, however: not all lying is malevolent. Sometimes people lie to protect others from greater evils, maybe even counting you as someone they lie to in order to help or protect. Lies are like loans, for one should take on as few as is necessary and keep them as small as possible.
Rating:  Summary: Best Seller? Review: Could it be our love of truth that made this book a bestseller? We want to know the truth, but we don't want to lie to discover it. It's discouraging to me that lying is such an accepted practice in our culture. I was raised to be truthful, even if it hurt. I have since learned to say, "I'd rather not say," if I do not want to tell everything I know. One part in particular would have been useful to me 5 years ago when the book first came out; namely, the section on "Special Occasions" referring to dealing with one's manager. For example, if it's a bright sunny day and your boss is trying to pressure you to sign an affidavid that swears it's pouring down rain, windy, with thunder, what should you say? The author recommends something like, "You're smart and very successful; tell me what you would do if you were in my position now." I don't know if it would have worked, but I would sure have tried it.
Rating:  Summary: mixed truths Review: I expected this to help me tell when people are lying (more than I already can currently), but all it's done is confuse me when I tried to put it into practice. I never really pay attention to my body language and the way I speak until I read this book. I rarely lie, but 90% of the time when I speak I am committing some act that (according to the author) is a clear indication of lying. Worse yet, when I do lie, I natually do all the things that the author thinks signifies someone telling the truth. There were a few good tips... shifting gazed, uncomfortable movements, etc... but those are fairly obvious... it's easy to spot bad liers. This book will not help you expose good liers.
Rating:  Summary: Not what I thought it would be! Review: This book did not contain what I thought it would. I read the book as a project for school. I thought it would be interesting reading. It was actually pretty vague, boring and dry. The book was suppose to get the reader insite on how to tell if someone is lying to you, hence then name "Never Be Lied to Again." But I find it out of my principle to lie to someone in order to get the truth. Isn't that a contradicting yourself? In most of the book, the author shows all different techniques on how to catch a liar, but in fact most of the ways are by lying to the suspected liar. I don't find this one bit ethical. For instance, say you suspect someone of lying, so you lie to get them to answer a certain question. Well you find out that they were not lying at all. The truth was actually being told. But in order to have found that out, You actaully lied. Does that make sense? However the first part of the book was very interesting. It told about body language, verbal cues, and mind games. Reading what was actually written by Lieberman about these particular sections were so right. When having a general conversation with someone you can tell that they are fidgeting, are hold ing eye contact with you, or if they are just plain uncomfortable. When you are speaking with someone, you know the signs or movements that they make when they are not listening to you. You can just tell. This book brings them out and more as to what to look for in different situations such as, relationships, co-workers, or employers. So I gave three stars because it didn't take that long to read and the first part was interesting. The reason it lost two stars is because most of book telling you to lie to catch a liar. That is just not right!
Rating:  Summary: too vague Review: This book does not even come close to the caliber of Conquering Deception by Jef Nance. I want a book that gives me hard and fast details not soft and mushy drivel. I am in law enforcement and want information on this subject. I am sending the book back.
Rating:  Summary: A lie for a lie, a truth for a truth Review: This book is nothing like it sells itself--it claims to give you (in five minutes) tips on how to figure out whether people are lying to you. Instead it gives a LONG LIST of unsubstantiated, stereotypical ways people can deceive you (this guy has his Ph.D. and is getting paid for simply saying that you can tell whether people lie by whether they look directly into your eyes?). Instead, this book is filled with ways for you to try to TRICK PEOPLE into admitting they lie. In a number of places he actually tells you to LIE in order to find out if someone is LYING! For example, if you are hiring someone and suspect they are lying on their resume, you are to say that "everyone lies on their resume" and that you "admire" people with the guts to do it--then ask them how they have done it on their resume! This is the end justifying the means and unethical! There is also WAY TOO MUCH material on spouses/lovers cheating on each other. He seems obsessed with trying to uncover whether your partner is lying to you about cheating--and for most people this will only raise suspicions needlessly instead of providing solutions. The book is pretty worthless. There are a couple good (but short) comments on how dealing with your own self-esteem issues will impact how you perceive people telling you the truth. But DON'T get this book if you think it will really do what it claims to do. Instead it's a short course on how to deceive in order to find out if people are lying.
Rating:  Summary: I could have saved myself 24 years! Review: Gee, if only I would have read this book before i met my ex...He always used to say, "Don't make me lie to you..." I hate being lied to. Partial truths and withholding is just as onerous. very entertaining and useful read. Highly recommended. The name of a good divorce lawyer, pistol lessons and this book, and you're ready to sail the matrimonial seas!
Rating:  Summary: Truth 101 or an oversimplification of the obvious Review: I believe this author has very little real life experiences...his assertions, if not empirically supported, smack of someone who has lived in academia for the better part of their life. To assert that how people see the world is often a reflection of how they see themselves, doesn't take into consideration many people often view things in a specific way because they have seen similar patterns in people's behavior before...therefore, they're seeing what's truly going on...not that they maintain, or own, the same traits or behavior!! A good rudimentary pamphlet on lying, but not comprehensive or insightful.
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