Mars and Venus on a Date

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Summary: Is dating really worth it?
Review: This is really a book for women although men might benefit from it. After finishing it I must say that dating hardly seems worth the trouble!

The author describes a man as a person interviewing for a job and a woman as the employer. Men are supposed to meet a woman's needs and not be concerned about their own needs being met. A woman should never try to give back but is being very giving simply by being receptive to the man's giving. This is not a very encouraging book for men. Or maybe the author is right and I am having trouble accepting the way dating really works.

If you are a woman reading this I will say that the only relationships I have had that went beyond a couple of dates were ones in which she also had some concern for what my needs were and made an effort to give in return, and I am not talking about sex. But perhaps the author would think that these relationships of mine were dysfunctional because they didn't fit his rigidly defined roles and we never made it to stage 4 which is engagement.

I am not saying the author is right or wrong as I am a relatively inexperienced dater-time will tell I suppose. The book does provide a good mental framework for dating if you agree with the author's roles for men and women in a dating relationship. I am still not sure if I agree completely with the dating roles of men and women as described in this book but am willing at least to test them and see what kind of results follow.