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Summary: Some interesting points
Review: As with Dr. Gray's first book, I found some good information here. There were also some points with which I completely disagreed. I got a few "A-ha!"'s out of it by using it to make sense of behavior that previously baffled me. And there were some suggestions that I will be trying out to modify my own behavior a bit. On the points that I disagreed with, I actually got angry as I pondered them. For instance, if a notion like the following infuriates you, consider whether you want to weed through it to cull some more realistic advice: If a man decides to not call a woman with whom he is in an exclusive relationship with for weeks or months, she should not call him... furthermore she should not be negative if he does finally call; she should be friendly and receptive. Don't get me started on the attitudes about sex and gender here.
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Summary: Generalizations with no supporting data
Review: John Gray certainly sounds convincing as he outlines for us the roles men and women must play in order to successfully navigate the dating game. But the roles he proposes are just too rigid to be realistic. He attempts to convince us that the man must be the pursuer and the woman the pursued, with little supporting evidence to back up his claims, aside from testimonials of people attending his seminars and clinics. This book ranks up there with "The Rules" for moving male/female relations back into the dark ages. Believe it or not, Dr. Gray, there are men out there who admire a woman who goes after what she wants, even in relationships.
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Summary: Devoted Reader of this series..
Review: I am single, in fact I'm only 17! But when his books started being published I bought all of them as they were released.. reading each of them thouroughly, and appreciating the skills I have learned and will put to good use when I'm older. I was thrilled when Mars and Venus On A Date came out! Now finally a book I can put to use RIGHT NOW! I reccomend all of his books to people!
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Summary: It gave me a new insight into relationships and helped me .
Review: It gave me a new insight into relationships and really helped me. Whenever I think of ringing him I pick up the book instead and remember why I should not ring. I would love John Gray to come to Israel to do a workshop.
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Summary: OK at first, then offensive
Review: The first 2/3 of the book was OK, with balanced "points of view" and "how-to's" for both men and women. Some of the information was interesting, explanatory, and useful; some was not. But then the author began giving unbalanced treatment, primarily telling women how they ought to behave and what they ought to say. The message was that a man has a large and fragile ego, and that a woman should support his ego. She should never disagree with him, except "playfully". In public, she should paint him as a white knight, regardless of what really happened. Perhaps it was just the author's writing style, but most of his examples, supposedly of real couples he'd observed or counseled, seemed made-up. Finally, at the end of the book, the author insults the reader's intelligence with an idiotic, redundant, and unnecessary list of 101 places to look for a mate. Very patronizing.
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Summary: The only dating guide you'll ever need!
Review: There definitely seems to be a market saturation with dating and relationship books these days. But before you do a "Bridget Jones" and buy every single one of them, stop right there--buy "Mars and Venus on a Date" and you won't have to buy another dating guide ever again. This is a good book for ANYONE in the dating market--no matter what age you are, whether you are divorced or widowed, or what religion or set of values you follow. Most people today have no clue how to date properly in order to build lasting and loving relationships, and I was one of them before I read this book. I started reading it after having a disastrous dating situation in college and realized that I needed a little guidance in the romance depatment. This book was like a sudden revelation--suddenly all of my questions about male behavior and the dating process were answered! The book describes the five stages of dating and fills you in on how things are supposed to progress. It also gives you valuable advice about the male and female roles in dating. Though Dr. Gray emphasizes traditional dating roles (the man is the pursuer, the woman shouldn't call, etc.), he explains the logic behind them so that even a feminist such as myself would agree with them. What makes this book stand out from the rest is that is focuses on building loving relationships and not just sex. Never once does John Gray say that sex should be a part of every relationship. In fact, he even says that too often people have sex way too soon, which often sabotages the relationship. As someone who wants to wait until marriage to have sex, I found this very refreshing. In fact, Gray gives some positive examples of couples who waited until marriage to have sex. He makes a clear point that you don't have to go all the way to experience intimacy. But most importantly, this book works. I have now been dating someone for about 5 weeks now, and things are going great. Without John Gray's wisdom and guidance, this relationship may have ended up like the last one. So what are you waiting for...go buy this book!
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Summary: If you want to improve your relationship, read the book
Review: It amazes me whenever I read the negative reviews of John Grays books. People can argue all day about whether he's "qualified" or biased...or whether or not he generalizes too much. The fact is half of all marriages end in divorce and that rate doesn't seem to be improving but if only one person takes the time to try to learn the relationship skills necessary to improve his or her relationship, then maybe thats one less statistic. I've read Mars and Venus on a Date 6 times and I've read each of his other books no less than 3 times apiece. The insight that I've gained from his writings are invaluable and to be honest with you, I wonder where I would be without them. While no book can change your life, Mars and Venus on a date can at least point you in the right direction. Its still up to the individual to do the work. I am currently in the most wonderful relationship that I've ever been in..not perfect, but wonderful. Because finally I'm able to understand so much more than I've ever understood before, I'm now able to apply certain techniques to make my relationships better. No matter how much we want to deny it, men and women are very different creatures. If you want to question Dr. Gray's credentials, fine. But when your relationships keep failing and you have no clue why. Keep in mind that at least someone cares enough to try to explain it to you.
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Summary: Good content bad writing
Review: This book has some decent guidelines and observations. I think anyone who reads it will benefit in one way or another. The only problem with this book is that it is writen in very simple english. It has a feel like it's meant for Junior H.S. kids with its simple sentence structures. Another problem with it is that it is highly repetetive, I believe the author could have squeezed the entire book into 1/3 of its size without the loss of generality. The 'real life' examples illustrating the dating rules seem extremely fake. It seems like the author just made up these stories to illustrate his point. I don't know if this is true but his simple writing style make it seem that way.
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Summary: Valuable Info.
Review: John Gray offers some important information that can be overlooked in men/women relationships. In this "PC" world we live in it isn't polite to say that men and women are different, but we are. And this book has some interesting insights into our differences. It has helped me to not take it so personal when men say and do (or don't say or do as the case may be) things that can be offensive. This book helps me to forgive and love the men in my life.
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Summary: Stop complaining and try gaining insights
Review: Here is the big question: Will you be better off having read the book. Yes. In today's fortunate world of near sexual equality Dr. Gray reminds us that we are still male and female, and should act that way where appropriate. Some reader reviews are bitingly negative, and that says more about the reviewer than the book. Be open. Get ideas. Discard others. Take it for what you want. But if you are open you will have some insights.
Also, some of us just don't want to face the truth that there is beauty and truth in treating men like men and women like women. Some insights confirmed in the book are that a woman's attraction grows by knowing a man and his strengths, not just by initial attraction and that women and men do intuitively expect men to be the pursuers and can sabatoge a relationship by reversing those roles. I also see how people sabotage their relationships by moving too fast.
Some people have complained about the list of meeting-place ideas near the end. He goes too far in my opinion in suggesting how far to go out of your box, like seeking people of different political parties at their events. Again, don't expect a book to save your love life, expect it to provide useful insights, some of which you will implement and some of which you won't. But isn't one small step worth the price and time of a book?
I have seen women and men sabotage their lives by going to far towards acting equal in all respects instead of equal but wonderfully different. I think the best benefit of his books is to show that the stereotypical male/female dynamics actually work. I am considering getting copies for friends whether single, dating, or married, because I can see many of the examples are true in real lives.
So here you are trying to decide whether or not to spend a few buck and hours gaining insights or watching TV reruns. I choose the former.
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