The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

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Summary: Practical advice that you can actually practice
Review: You will get a pretty good idea of what the book is about from the book's description/jacket and from the reviews. In short, Person A will feel love more effectively if someone else is "speaking" to Person A in their primary love language. And Person B usually finds it easier to demonstrate love using their primary love language. But if A and B have different primary love languages, the communication can break down.

Chapman does a great job of explaining this in more detail in the book and gives practical ways to use this information. That is what I think is the best part of the book and what makes it so valuable. He helps you to understand his ideas and then gives you ways that you can practice these ideas. And once you take some time to think about the concept, you realize that it isn't hard to do. It makes sense and can become something that is a regular part of your life.

It isn't necessarily easy because some of the things we currently do are almost instinctual but the new ideas really aren't too foreign. So, while it may be hard to actually do something new and different, at least this book makes it fairly easy to get the ideas going in your head. I have found myself reflecting on concepts from this book many, many times since I read it for the first time several years ago. And once it becomes something you can think about regularly, putting it into practice comes easier.

I can't think of too many things better than improving how I show love to other people, whether that is love in a friendship, to family, to my child, or to my wife. It is a different type of love for each and using different love languages helps me communicate that.

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Summary: A bible one must have...an incredible book..
Review: I strongly recommended this book, I had never read such a book, where one could describe throughly the languages of love in such simple words and great examples as Dr. Chapman did...the book is so easy to follow thru, very true examples to our everyday life, I believe this book not only help your relationship but also a valuable tool to pass on the generations..
Thankyou Dr Chapman, you're a wiseman..

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Summary: An incredible book .... highly recommend ...
Review: I liked the concept of five love languages. Mr. Chapman reveals the different ways of love expression. It is a simple concept, and rather obvious, when you think about it, but still I needed Mr. Chapman to make me realize it.

The book is worth the last penny and one should not only read it, but also keep at home for future reference. Same, as one should also do with "Can We Live 150 Years?" by Mr. Tombak. Both books wrapped up together make a perfect gift bundle. Check the publisher's website for details: http://www.starthealthylife.com



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Summary: I think he's on to something!
Review: After many years as a marriage counselor, Gary Chapman began noticing patterns in the way couples interact with each other. Although one or both partners might be trying to please their mate and make their marriage better, somehow their efforts were falling short. He noticed that after the first blush of romantic love begins to fade, couples are often unsuccessful in keeping the loving and affectionate feelings alive in their marriage. He concluded that each of us has a "love language", which is based on a need within us which must be filled in order for us to feel loved. This love language is part of us early in life and seems to continue to adulthood. In order for us to effectively love our spouse, we must be tuned in to his/her "love language". The love languages include quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Often people intuitively know which is their love language but for those who don't, Gary Chapman provides a questionnaire which will help each person identify which one is primary for him/her. He has a chapter explaining each love language and how you can speak this language to your spouse. If both partners are committed to making their marriage better, Chapman's case studies show this is an effective way for them to minister to each other and improve their communication and interactions.

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Summary: How to get closer to your loved ones and SUCCEED!
Review: I read this book for a class that I'm taking called Human Relations. I found "The Five Love Languages" to be one of the most interesting and easy books to read. The author's premise is simple: there are 5 love languages that people communicate and express their version of Love. These languages are words of affirmation, quality time, physical love, acts of service, and recieving gifts. So Chapman theorizes that each of us has ONE and only one way that we express love and that for me meant physcial touch. After reading the book, I finally understood why some of my relationships did not work out and how and why obsessive emotion (falling in love) doesn't last. I learned that love is a choice based on emotion and reason. I wished that I had this book 10 years ago to save a relationship that didn't work out. Yet, now, I'm the wiser for it and utilize his theory in my other relationships: family and friends. This book has the power to turn the most difficult, trying relationship into bliss while understanding how to speak your mate's love language.

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Summary: almost magically...
Review: i learn to give in the language the other partner can best receive, this has made a lot of difference and improved my marriage satisfaction and intimacy.
I also suggest coupling it with that of Ariel and Shya Kane. It's called "Working on Your Relationship Doesn't Work". It, too, is a relief. Not only can I stop picking on myself, but I needn't pick on my partner nor pick apart my relationship with him. The Kanes, throughout their book, have examples of real life couples who, through simply being aware of or noticing without judging how they are operating in the world, find that their lives(almost magically... scratch "almost") become clearer without processing and churning through past and possible future misdeeds. The Kanes demonstrate clearly that: it's not "what we do". Its "who we are eing" that makes all the difference.
I highly recommend other book that save my life Sex and the perfect lover by Mabel Iam. I believe it can positively impact in any relationship! Buy it!!!

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Summary: Practicing Love and Perfecting It
Review: I had the opportunity to learn Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages in a seminar that I went to regarding the family. This is wonderful information that actually is practical and opens the door for both learning to give to each other 100%, not only that, but giving 100% to the others language of love.

Learing love languages is actually fun. Relating to each others language of love is even more exciting. Once you learn whether your spouse loves touch or gifts, or even loves conversation, you will open new avenues for intimacy and closeness.

I think Gary Chapman has found a solution to the problem of continued closeness in a marriage. Learn and apply the language of love and grow closer together.

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Summary: Love The One You're With
Review: I got this book after I saw the author on the Joyce Meyer show,
and what he said about the different ways that people feel loved
made so much sense. The book lays it out very clearly and in an
entertaining way, so that you really understand the concepts and
techniques. It was very well done, and almost as impactful for us
as the dvd "New Sex Now" was for our sexual advancement.
Together, these two really helped us gain a huge amount of
intimacy and strengthened our relationship.