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Summary: Not every husband is that simpleton
Review: Men are not all the same. This book can help women who have a certain kind of men. I know men whose wives did all: cook favorite foods, looked scantily and sexy, did magnificent sex every night, and in the end these men were annoyed rather than happy, went to find variety or someone cooler and "misterious". And on the top called these ex-wives "too emotional", "too clingy", "not serious enough", "not challenging enough" etc.
An advice for the women out there: "Be true to yourself". If he doesn't like, you are not made for each other, period. Get over and try to find someone who really loves you for who you are, instead of pretending to be someone you are not. And also forget about "changing the guy later" thought. I really believe in good matches, not in formulas.
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Summary: For a society which has forgotten what common sense is
Review: I am a wild mountain woman and not at all meek and mild, and I do NOT listen to Dr. Lauras radio show, and there are many things she says and believes that I do NOT agree with. But there are a lot of writers whom I dislike on a personality level who nonetheless have valuable and wise wisdom that I have used and gained great value from.This book is common sense information for a society which has forgotten what common sense is. And being an Orthodox Jewish, happily married woman, she offers advise that is of value to anyone who really cares about having a marriage that is a success, be they religious or secular. Dr. Laura is wise to note in her books and in her interviews on shows like Larry King that her books never condone or encourage women or men to stay in relationships where their is abuse or pornography issues. Her books, like this one, are for the majority of women in relationships where the main concerns have more to do with knowing why their marriages aren't all they want. Knowing that being feminine and womanly isn't a negative, and that men and women are different and this isn't a negative. Being married since 1966, I learned ages ago that to change my husband I needed to change myself. And Dr. Laura gets this common sense fact down on paper so well. She also writes with the understanding of what makes a successful marriage in modern times. She doesn't put down working women, since she is one. But she does remind women who are married that they need to look at what their priorities are or should be. I will even suggest that CEO's and those who run businesses read this book, because it might help them better understand that workers who have their priorities straight at home, have better marriages and better marriages makes for better workers. I also highly recommend Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, The: 25 Year Landmark Study and The Good Marriage: How & Why Love Lasts by Judith Wallerstein. --This text refers to the Hardcover edition
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Summary: ladies..read it and weep!
Review: Why will we ladies be weeping? Because if we can stop being defensive..and look at ourselves honestly..we'll realize that we should be treating our men alot better.
Dr Laura's new book "the proper care and feeding of husbands" is an honest look at todays state if marriage..and relations between men and women. This book is a wake up call to me! I hear people call in all the time and talk about these issues, but seeing it in black and white---it has made me realize how insightful Dr. Laura really is. She is brilliant! Thank you Dr. Laura for using your humor and cutting to the issue!
I cant wait to finish this facinating read!
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Summary: Right on the money
Review: It is such a blessing that Dr. Laura is in session on the radio to offer her expertise! I LOVE listening on my way to pick up my kids from school. I have almost completed this book and enjoy reading what she says daily on her show. She is always consistant in her advise, like I wrote right on the money!!!! Listening to her reinforces my morals and values and makes me a better wife and mother!!
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Summary: Great thought-provoking book.
Review: [...]This book is a wonderful resource for any wife who would like to improve her relationship with her husband. As has been mentioned before, Dr. Laura intersperses her advice with letters, emails, and phone conversations from her radio program to illustrate each chapter's main point. The book's main body consists of eight chapters dealing with a distinct factor on improving the husband-wife relationship.
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These are the main points of Dr. Laura's book. Basically, as one reviewer put it so well, love is indeed a verb, not just a noun. I'm finding that acting on some of the advice given in this book has already caused a definite happier atmosphere in our home. It's not about being a "doormat", downtrodden, or subservient. It's about loving and respecting the man you chose to marry. Just because Dr. Laura's past has skeletons, does it really make her advice negligible? It's not as if this book is all just her opinion. There is plenty of advice from people who have emailed and written letters to her--those who are in happy marriages, troubled marriages, and everywhere in between. The reason I gave the book 4 out of 5 stars: the letter/email/phone call excerpts within the chapters caused information overload at times. The main points could still have been made without getting bogged down in too many real-life examples. In any case, trying the advice given in this book can only help your marriage. You can't go wrong giving your husband love! --This text refers to the Hardcover edition
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Summary: Excellent
Review: This book is the answer to the MILLIONS of books out there that focus on what's wrong with men, how men could further please women, better understand women, satisfy women's emotional needs. What is sad, that so many women (including some reviewers) think it's wrong for a man to want satisfaction in a relationship too, and that he too, would like to be "served" "catered to" and have his needs met. When women demand this (and complain that men do not do this), it is ok, we blame the men for not meeting their needs. When someone like the author points out men have needs too, some sexist women act like this is subservient, or "servicing" men. So pleasing men is "servicing" but pleasing women is "being a good husband?" This book is a strong proponent of the position that BOTH people need each other and have needs that often go unspoken. I think it says a lot that such a book offends some women, even though similar books are written about the reverse situation. What does that tell you about our society today? This book won't save your marriage, but it will help you both understand the dynamics going on in the relationship. I also suggest that men read similar books about being good husbands.
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Summary: Wonderful book!
Review: I think this book is brilliant. Dr. Laura is absolutely right. I am a wife and mother and I totally agree with Dr. Laura's assessments in this book. Love is a verb, not a noun. You give it and you get it back. I can't believe that so many people out there think it is a sign of weakness to be kind and loving to their husbands. No wonder the divorce rate is so high.
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Summary: You Will Receive What You Wish For
Review: Needless to say before you rush out and buy this book, please listen to Dr. Laura on the radio for at least 30 minutes. If you like what you hear, then buy the book. Otherwise the purchase will not be an investment that will bring you happiness or be a gift to a friend or relative that will bring that person happiness. Otherwise it is well written with a flowing style and contains some original thinking. Jack in Toronto
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Summary: Honoring and Respecting Your Husband is the Key
Review: Dr Laura's book is sure to be controversial but for wives who are willing to do whatever it takes to make their marriages work, this book has the answers. Dr Laura tells it as it is as she explains a wife holds the keys to making her husband happy and her marriage successful if she will honor and respect her husband and give him attention and affection. My husband gave me this book last week because he knew I had started reading books on how to be a better wife and I was already a fan of Dr Laura's books. I imagine that if a wife was a feminist or not ready to make sacrifices for her husband then giving her this book would not help. I recently gave up my business to concentrate on my family and was primed for what this book had to teach. Men who read this will likely get their feelings validated. Some might possibly be insulted though by Dr Laura's assertion, "Men are borne of women and spend the rest of their lives yearning for a woman's acceptance and approval...men admittedly are putty in the hands of a woman they love. Give him direct communication, respect, appreciation, food and good lovin', and he'll do just about anything you wish...You basic male is a decent creature with simple desires: to be his wife's hero, to be his wife's dream lover, to be the protector and provider for his family, to be respected, admired and apprecaited. Men live to make their women happy. Though Dr Laura is Jewish, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" makes many the same points as conservative Christian marriage books such as "Liberated Through Submission", "Finding the Hero in Your Husband", "Joy of a Promise Kept", "His Needs, Her Needs" and the secular book "The Surrendered Wife". The body of book is about 1/3 quotes from radio conversations with listeners and emails that Dr Laura has gotten. The heartfelt quotes from husbands drive home the points made. Dr Laura teaches that a good wife with her actions makes her husband the #1 priority in her life, clearly before both her job, parents, friends and even children. She tells women not to nag or mother this husbands because "If a man can't find peace in his own home, where he should be able to feel relaxed, accepted, loved, and content, he beings to hate coming home" Dr Laura teaches that feminism has lied in claiming "men will oppress; they are the enemy; do not submit; terminate or donate." She condems the feminist movement "which supports personal success, acquisition, accomplishment amd power...over love, marriage and family." I've read several criticisms of Dr Laura's position that it is a wife needs to meet her husband's sexual needs even when she's not in the mood. Dr Laura compares it to how irresponsible it would be for a husband to not go to work just because he's too tired or doesn't feel like it. If a wife still doesn't understand the reason behind her obligation, there are other books that cover this issue more thoroughly such as "Understanding the Purpose and Power of a Woman", "Making Sense Of The Men In Your Life" and "Sacred Sex: A Spiritual Celebration of Oneness in Marriage". This is not a book for wives whose husbands are abusive but if you have a decent, hardworking husband husband and are willing to be unselfish and honor your marriage vows, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" will motivate you to be a great wife.
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Summary: The feminist crowd will howl in disdain until they try it.
Review: I bought the book to read for myself. (I am a husband.) My wife saw it and indicated she would read it, too. I identify very strongly with the pain expressed by the husbands Dr. Laura quotes. Women have been sold a bill of goods that they can do it all and providing emotionally for husband and family can be pushed farther down the list. Yet, if women reorder their priorities so they make husbands feel appreciated instead of in the way or too much bother, their efforts will be rewarded many times over and they will be far happier themselves. A key Dr. Laura question to "modern" women is, "If you keep doing what you have been doing, why should your husband continue to love you?"
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